People can be mean, and little kids are not exempted. By the age of 6, the social consequence of a six-year-old still wearing diapers are huge, and other kids at school would have noticed it already and make fun of your child. And some kids will make it their priority to learn how to start using the toilet or a potty to avoid the shame of wearing a diaper at age 6.
Some kids still do not attempt to use a potty, and sometimes, it may not be stubbornness or ignorance of the shame but might be a natural decision or a medical issue. Only a few children at age six do not attempt to use a potty. Some possible factors are;
6 Years Old Still Not Potty Trained – Here Are Some Factors
- Children who have problems of not being able to control their bladder or the action of their bowels will no doubt be ashamed of showing it and may prefer to keep using a diaper and not learn how to use a potty. Although they will want to be normal, knowing the outcome of trying and failing, they won’t want to feel hurt.
- Children who have been through some traumatic encounter. Trauma such as Physical abuse, Sexual abuse, Death of a loved one, emotional abuse, loss of a parent or parents, sudden change of environment, lack of parental love and affection, parental neglect, verbal abuse. These are more than enough reasons for a young child to fail at potty training. Before this incident, the child might be fine, eating well, sleeping well, potty trained, and good speech. But after facing any form of trauma, he or she may not be able to cope, the child might feel depressed and tend to lose control over his or her actions, could be not speaking to people, rejecting foods, absent-mindedly excreting on his or her self, and this can continue to go on. In situations like this, the decision of being potty trained will be dependent on the child. They may see their behavior as a punishment for others whenever they get mad over what they have done; some children may not want to change at all.
- A child with developmental disability problem in one way or another may not understand the expectations of a 6-year-old, or the ramifications of using a diaper at his or her age, and is comfortably enjoying the plenty of attention he or she is getting for their lack of independence.
- A jealous child who likes getting all the attention of mom or dad, knowing that pooing on his or her body will gain them more attention when getting cleaned up by their favorite person, may never want to learn how to use a potty.
- A very comfortable child in a diaper or is lazy or nonchalant about taking up some little responsibility like seeing himself to the toilet without help. Will most definitely not care about using a potty.
Whichever case it may be, training your child to use a potty may seem very difficult but is not impossible. If you believe your child’s inability to use a potty is a medical thing, talk to your doctor. If you notice him or her is having a hard time catching up to the minor things most kids their age do/knows, probably academically, try talking to the school authorities about open options.
If your child has in the past or recently gone through any form of a traumatic situation, speak to your pediatrician, see a psychologist, see a therapist or go for counseling with your child.
Is My Child Ready For Potty Training
Potty training a child can prove to be a huge milestone for both you and your child, but some children are just stubborn, and a stubborn child will be the hardest to potty train, but you should be patient because his or her stubbornness has been gotten from either both of one of their parents.
If you are on the journey of trying to potty train your child, do not compare him to any other kids, either their siblings, friends, or peers. Do not try to force your child to be potty trained because someone else told you so. Sometimes, your child may not be ready to be potty trained yet.
Let your child keep wearing their diaper for a few more weeks, even months; while giving your child enough time to get ready for potty training; there are some other actions you will need to take to encourage them to learn how to use their potty. Some of those actions are :
Some kids are smart, so you can easily talk to them about using a potty, reasons, benefits, taking the topic as slow as possible. Getting your child a toy, stuffed animals, or cute doll for girls and encourage him or her to teach their dolls how to use the potty or toilet, praise and patronize them with both words and a little reward for doing it if they did it successfully.
You can get some books on potty training, read them to them, or sing/teach them a potty training song to interest them in learning how to use a potty. Sitting them on their potty about 1 hour or 30 minutes after every meal and encourage them to poo can help; they may get used to using a potty.
Convince your child that going to use a potty is a fun thing to do by singing to them while they are using the potty, reading them an interesting book, saying funny things to make them comfortable and happy to try a new thing not uncomfortable or shy.
If your child successfully uses their potty within 10 minutes, praise them and try to make them; you, you may decide to get them something as a reward, maybe a chocolate bar or an ice cream for a good job, but nothing too much.
Do not force a child to get potty trained, especially not a traumatic child or a stubborn child; all children learn how to use a potty at different ages and different stages of their lives, so you may need to be extra patient with yours.
Note; You should not make your child sit in a potty for more than 10 minutes, after 8 to 10 minutes and they poo, wear him or her a diaper, praise him or her for trying, and put them to bed. Continue this procedure, and in a week or two, they will be able to use a potty either alone or by themselves.